People fall in love with each other every day. They also fall out of love. But why is that? And how long does it take to fall out of love?
There is no set time it takes to fall out of love. The length of time that it takes for someone to fall out of love varies depending on the individual. Some people may fall out of love in as little as a few months while others can take many years to fall out of love with someone who broke their heart.
As you can see, the answer is complicated and there are many factors at play when it comes to love. Nothing that involves the heart and feelings is ever simple!
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What are Some Reasons For Falling Out of Love?
Some of the most common reasons why someone would fall out of love with their partner include becoming overwhelmed by their own emotions, discovering that their partner has been unfaithful, the initial “thrill” is gone, and feeling unappreciated and disrespected. The last one may not seem like a reason to fall out of love, but feeling appreciated and respected is actually more important than love in a relationship.
While there are many reasons why someone might fall out of love when you have the benefit of hindsight you can often identify when it started to happen.
Take a look back at your relationship and take note of any patterns or behaviors that may have taken place leading up to the end. See if this could help you find new ways to reach understanding as to why your partner, or yourself, fell out of love. Discovering infidelity or finding out that your partner has been keeping secrets are the obvious ones, but if there’s nothing obvious, try digging deeper to find the early signs that love was fading.
It’s not always possible to stay in love with someone no matter how much you care for them. Falling out of love doesn’t mean that we stop caring for that person or they stop caring about us – it just means, the feelings of intense romantic love have subsided.
What Does it Feel Like To Fall Out of Love?
Falling out of love feels different for everyone.
Some people feel numb inside, while others feel hurt, even if they are the ones who have fallen out of love.
You may find yourself less physically attracted to your partner when you fall out of love. You might also find yourself becoming angry with them for their lack of respect for you and your feelings. The way they talk to you, the little things they do or don’t do – they are sources of frustration that will drive a wedge between two people.
It can be difficult to abandon someone who once brought great joy into our lives. Letting go can be hard, but it’s important not to toy with the feelings of someone else.
Is it Possible to Fall Back in Love With Someone You’ve Fallen Out of Love With?
It is possible to fall back in love with some you’ve fallen out of love with. You may not necessarily be able to replicate that initial thrill, also known as the “honeymoon period” of a relationship. But you can definitely fall back in love.
There are a number of things you can do to fall back in love if the relationship is:
a) Important to you and,
b) if one or both partners want to work on saving it (though your first responsibility should always be yourself).
The first thing you should do is talk about how the relationship makes each person feel and what you both want the relationship to look like.
Communication is key – talk openly about your feelings and your experiences. Try to understand where the other person is coming from, what’s going on in their head and heart.
Couples who stay in touch daily with conversations, date nights, and texts tend to have happier relationships than those who lose touch over time. Even if one party can’t pledge to be in love at the moment, these tips can help to keep you close emotionally: show affection without sexual pressure or expectations, help solve problems together instead of avoiding them by stepping back or shutting down, and maintain open lines of communication.
Sometimes the answer is just as simple as taking a step back to decide if this is what you truly want, or slowing down so you can focus more on yourself. It’s impossible to pour from an empty cup, meaning that it’s very hard to be in love with someone else when you don’t love yourself.
Some people believe that if you truly love someone, that love will last forever. The truth is, falling out of love is just as natural as falling in love – it’s a natural process that happens every single day.
If you fall out of love with your partner (or if they fall out of love with you) it’s important that you don’t feel like you’ve failed. It just means that this person wasn’t the right one for you, and as long as you keep your heart open, you will find your soulmate, the one who is deeply in love with you (and won’t fall out of love.)