How do you know if a guy is interested in you or just being friendly? The truth is, it’s not always easy to tell. And there’s not much that’s more awkward than making a move on a guy because you think he’s interested and him being all “Woah… ease up, I was just being friendly…” Cringe.
To avoid that feeling of wishing the earth would swallow you up, here’s how to tell if a guy is actually into you or if he’s just a friendly guy.
Table of Contents
- 1. He Asks For Your Number
- 2. He Compliments You Frequently
- 3. He Initiates Contact With You
- 4. He Asks Your Opinion on Things
- 5. He Shows an Interest In Who You Are as a Person
- 6. There Have Been “Lingering” Moments
- 7. The Conversations Between The Two of You Are Deeper
- 8. Pay Attention to His Body Language
- Final Thoughts
1. He Asks For Your Number
It’s one thing for a guy to friend request you on social media – that alone is not a sign that he’s interested in you. But if he asks for your number, that’s an entirely different story. Unless he needs your number for a specific reason (for example, he’s your manager at work and he needs to text you about upcoming shifts) then him wanting your number is a pretty good sign that he’s into you. Of course, don’t discount him just because he doesn’t ask for your number. Some guys are shy and don’t want to appear too forward and others may prefer to contact you via social media. There are plenty of other ways to tell if he’s interested in you, so keep reading.
2. He Compliments You Frequently
The occasional compliment on something like a new haircut isn’t necessarily a sign he’s interested in you. Some people are just nice and like to make people feel good by giving them a compliment on their appearance.
Compliments about your appearance are nice, of course. But compliments about your personality, sense of humor, achievements, etc are much more important because they show that he has a deeper interest in you as a person, outside of merely your physical appearance.
If you notice that he’s frequently saying things like “You have a great sense of humor” or “I love how accepting you are of people” then that’s a good sign that he’s interested in you.
3. He Initiates Contact With You
If he is interested in you, then it’s likely that he will be the one who reaches out to make plans or just check up on how your day was going. Granted, this one is a little more difficult to prove since sometimes guys might just be reaching out because they need something from you (i.e., someone else’s contact details, a lift to the airport, etc), but if he frequently starts the conversation then it’s definitely possible he’s interested in you in more than just a friendly way.
If a guy reaches out and asks how you are or what you’re doing this weekend right after he liked a picture of you on Instagram, then there’s a possibility he likes what he sees. This usually happens when both parties have been friends for some time already so this sign can be difficult to spot at first. But keep an eye out for contact initiated by him and pay attention to the circumstances/reasons why he’s reaching out.
4. He Asks Your Opinion on Things
A guy who is interested in you will want to know what you think about things. If he’s trying to get your opinion on something, it’s a sign that he values your thoughts and opinions. He might ask for advice or see if you agree with his decision before making up his mind; this means that the two of you are becoming closer as friends.
5. He Shows an Interest In Who You Are as a Person
A guy who is interested in your personality will want to know more about you. He might ask where you’re from, what your childhood was like, or what your favorite vacations have been. These questions make it obvious that he’s trying to get an idea of the type of person you are and see if there’s a connection between the two of you. If this happens repeatedly over time then chances are he’ll be making his move soon!
6. There Have Been “Lingering” Moments
Have you noticed some of those “lingering” moments where he may touch your hand for a tiny bit longer than normal when he hands something to you, he hugs you for a bit longer when you greet each other or your eyes meet and hold a gaze a little longer than you normally would with a friend? If so, there’s a good chance he’s interested in you in more than a friendly way, but he’s just doesn’t want to come on too strong and scare you away.
7. The Conversations Between The Two of You Are Deeper
A guy who is interested in you will want to know more about the things that interest you and make you, you. He’ll ask questions and try to get a deeper understanding of your personality by asking for details such as what music do you like, where are some places that make you feel happy when you’re there, or how do you feel about some major world issues? The conversations could really go anywhere, but if they’re deeper than simply “How was your weekend?” then that’s a good sign he’s interested in you at a deeper level.
8. Pay Attention to His Body Language
Keep an eye on his body language when you’re around him. If he seems comfortable, it could be because you guys are friends and the conversation is natural or it could mean that there might be something more than just friendship brewing between the two of you.
On the other hand, if he used to seem natural around you but now he seems nervous, it could be because his feelings have changed and he’s started to see you as potentially more than just a friend. Either way, paying attention to his body language can tell you a lot about how he’s feeling.
So we’ve just gone through the different ways to tell if a guy is interested in you or not. If you’ve noticed some of these signs, there’s only one way to find out for sure, and that’s by getting close enough that either one of you feels comfortable enough to make the first move.
That means going out on a date, spending time alone together, and seeing what happens. There are so many reasons why someone may feel they can’t approach someone romantically, including shyness or fear of rejection.
But if you have a gut feeling that he likes you as more than a friend (and you feel the same) then go for it! Go ahead and ask him if he’d like to spend some time together alone, and see where it goes from there. All good relationships start somewhere, right?